You don’t have to hold everything together
Therapy for women who carry a lot
You work hard. You take care of other people. You keep things moving. To those around you, you may seem capable and in control. But you don’t always feel that way.
Before training as a therapist, I had several quite different careers. In each of them, it was the people who interested me most: their stories, and what was really going on beneath the surface. Over time, moving into therapy felt like a natural step.
Most of us know ourselves fairly well. What’s harder to see is how we think, feel and react in the moment. Talking things through with someone else can bring clarity and show you a situation from a new angle.
I’d like to get to know you as a person, not just the problem that brought you to me.
My approach is warm, curious and engaged. I won’t sit in silence while you struggle, and I won’t tell you what to do. Instead, I’ll ask questions, share what I notice, and sometimes gently challenge you.
Together, we’ll make sense of what’s going on and find a way forward that works for you.
I’m Victoria
When being capable becomes exhausting
You work hard. You take care of other people. You keep things moving. To those around you, you may seem capable and in control. But you don’t feel that way.
There is always something that needs your attention. Work, family, relationships, home, other people’s needs. The list never quite seems to end.
And somewhere at the bottom of that list is you.
You carry on, telling yourself that things will feel easier when work settles down, the children need you less, or life simply gets a bit quieter.
But somehow, life never quite gets less busy.
You’ve become very good at coping, at being dependable and getting things done. But being the person who can always cope takes its toll.
And it can be easy not to notice how much you’re carrying until something begins to feel too much.
When things no longer feel the same
You may have been managing well for years. Then life changes.
A relationship ends, you lose someone close to you, your children grow up, or your parents begin to need more from you. Perhaps work becomes more difficult, or your body is changing as you move through life. Or the way you’ve always managed things simply stops working.
You may find yourself more anxious, irritable or sad than usual. Things that used to feel manageable can become harder, and it’s not always clear why.
It can leave you asking different questions: What do I need now? What matters to me? Who am I as familiar roles begin to fall away?
Therapy gives you space to stop and look at what’s going on. To understand what you’re feeling. And to work out what you need next.